Ourobros : Just a suggestion. Perhaps i have learnt this from the past 1 year i spent in hell.

First off, i have to admit my situation was not as bad as yours. There was no OM or any crazy stuff. But there was a lot of 're-writing history'. I guess each one has their own hell.

In the beginning i used to be so caught up in the whole 'how can she do this. Why is she denying that etc'. I was tormented and angry. If there was one thing i learnt on how to get out of that hell, it was to let them all go. I know, hard to do. But it is only when you can let go of the fact that she is lying to you and not accepting that there is an EA/PA is when you can move out of that mad-drama and feel liberated. But it is your path and accept that it will take time. But i can promise you that the day these things stop bothering you, you will feel much better. You will feel that you can take on anything. That strength of conviction about yourself brings inner strength.

If you are following the mass murderer 'Brervik' case in Norway, one of the victim's mom was asked as to why she was not angry. Apparently she replied "I'll never give him the gift of my anger".

Good luck!


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