Hoping my marriage can be saved :(

[Maggie3]

Thanks Sandi- my friend suggested trying something similar and when I tried it I just kept thinking! Ugh! I have been keeping very busy- the weather has been amazing here (though, definitely NOT good running weather Monday- I got sick) so I went to the beach yesterday. Today my parents and my uncle came down (family is an hour away) and we got a bunch of home improvement jobs done inside and out- so that feels good. I found a quote posted on one of these forums that I really liked and had an internal response to- something about how when you set yourself on fire to get smoke in your spouse's eyes you end up burnt. I feel like that helped me drop a lot of my anger. I now (at least for today but I also felt this good yesterday) realize this is not about me. My H is going through something really hard right now and while I know that our marriage wasn't perfect, it was damn good and I know I am a great person. The disbelief I see on people's faces when I tell them what is going on validates this. We did have a great relationship. The support from my friends and family and even casual acquaintances who have found out what is happening also validates to me that I am a good person, someone that people want to see succeed and be happy. And I will. Whether he is with me or not.