As luck with have it after the kids were asleep W wanted to talk some more. W stated that it took her a long time to get to the point of D and will take a long time for things to change.
I can respect her feelings, but realize that this is going to take a lot of patience on my part.
I then thought about things and asked when was the last time we sat down and talked about our R? W said sometime in early 2011. It made me sad to think that it had been that long and that if this would turn around how much more involved we would have to be.
I brought up talking to another MC, but she is not receptive to it. Perhaps I will let some time pass to see where she stands. The last time we went to a marriage counselor the main issues were me not coming home at a reasonable time (at work too late) and when I missed my S10 hockey tournament. Since then I have been coming home and have not missed a S10 game. We did have positive results and the MC thought that after 6 visits we did not need to see her any longer.
This morning W had to go to a class rather than to work so she stayed home longer than usual. I continued my normal routine with the kids and she remarked how much stuff I do around the house before I am out the door.
Since she would not be at work I picked her up a salad for lunch and she thanked me for thinking about her.
So I will continue to press on. I think I should change me name to Marching On In Wisconsin.
