Trying to erase her past

[missmyfriend]

@cwf - I am sure you are right that you H still loves you. I firmly believe that if someone in our lives actually could stop loving us, they wouldn't have an issue when they see us. Instead their physical, facial and even vocal responses show otherwise. As it has been described many times by others here, they are spinning and twisting, trying to find footing. This is only my opinion but I believe they are trying to get away from themselves. When they marry someone, the two become permanently intertwined. Separation and divorce cannot change that. This is why there is often so much bitterness between couples. The only exceptions to this are with couples that never really became close. They married for convenience or sex or not wanting to be alone. All others, who committed to any level, are "broken" when the split occurs.

@Trusting - Your dad is very astute. I have a feeling many others see the same thing. I agree with snodderly. He still loves you.

@Snodderly - So accurate.

@AJM - Do you think your wife is embarassed by the person she has become? We all know if we do something wrong such as sleeping with someone other than our spouse, the guilt is tremendous. And when she calls you names, is it more like her need to blame you because she can't look at herself and be honest?