You go girl! I am so proud of you! It's such a relief to get that off your chest and set boundaries, isn't it? Great boundaries by the way.
What was his reaction when you said that?
Yes, this is typical wishy-washy behavior for the MLCer. Nice one minute the just seething with venom the next. Mine was this way the first month or two after he left. I remember my SIL telling me he was acting mad. I told her that I had to set boundaries because he wouldn't stop pushing this friendship thing. She was the first to agree that we probably couldn't ever be friends after what he pulled this time.
I finally told him I was no longer going to take all the blame for his unhappiness in this marriage. I also told him that he had NEVER spoken to me like he had in all our years together as he had then and that he is not to speak to me unless he can speak to me respectfully.
That nipped that at the bud right away, but that is when there would be stretches of no contact. LOL...if there was contact Im sure it would've been all spew.
The MLCers cycle...rinse and repeat sort of thing. So don't be suprised if he keeps this up for a little while.
Im now starting to sense XH is starting to go back to where he was a year ago and there very well may be some spewing again. Having no respect for the LBS is what MLCers do best. I honestly think XH was in denial for a long time about the REALITY of divorce. Snodderly said they expect to us stay put and do and say all the things we were doing married, while they go off and do their own thing. That was really hard to grasp, such selfish and irrational behavior...but it's the truth! I see it happening now in my sitch.
