The one good thing with him gone is that you will find it easier to detach so that you CAN really wrap your head around this approach
without all the tension and emotion of him being in your face and yet leaving...
you can focus on you.
AT this point your m is like a plane that is having trouble flying
so make sure you are putting the Oxygen mask on YOUR face first so that THEN you can be there for your kids and others who may need help (like h)
You get that?
Take care of you now. Simple stuff gets forgotten, like eating right, sleeping enough, the healing power of hot water (a bath!) and actually having an adult conversation NOT about h, and NOT WITH H...
and not obsessing non-stop about the situation
or taking the temperature of the R all the time.
He needs a lot of space. Frankly so do you.
You want it to hit him that HE is the one who will miss the most and lose the most,
when it's all said and done...and he can't realize that if you keep pleading b/c that makes him more uncomfortable and wanting to flee...
and makes YOU clingy and needy which is Not attractive. Stop the pursuit.
& hang in there! IT does get better.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
