I wanted to add SA that it would only give xh and new wife AMMO against me. It's a NO WIN situation! If I dont I am a coward and they treat me like one. If I do I am a trouble maker adn they treat me like one PLUS son will be convienced too.
It's tough.
and to answer your question AJ..... would I do it over sending my son to xh???? you don't know how many times i have asked myself that question. Even though I suffer greatly and I miss him so much, it was in son's best interest as far as being a responsible adult and getting a job. It wasn't, however, in his best interest to be put in the middle because I would have NEVER done that to my son.
They job and growing up...son HAD to have this lesson. The price he and I paid for it was our relationship. I have cried a many a tear over this one. BUT it had to be done. (even now I hate saying that and still feel alot of quilt when I do)
Guys I also have my other thread about my bf. I need advice there too. I have been getting some counseling. I apparently am very needy and I want to change that. Please read adn post what you think, if you already havn't.
and to answer your question AJ..... would I do it over sending my son to xh???? you don't know how many times i have asked myself that question. Even though I suffer greatly and I miss him so much, it was in son's best interest as far as being a responsible adult and getting a job. It wasn't, however, in his best interest to be put in the middle because I would have NEVER done that to my son.
They job and growing up...son HAD to have this lesson. The price he and I paid for it was our relationship.
No, Sunshine, it is not the price. The price is that you do not have the relationship you wanted *right now*. But step back a bit and you'll see it differently at a later date. For now, you'll have to trust it is safe with your son.
Of course it wasn't in his best interest to be put in this position. But that's life. That's what is. You cannot change what is. Period. You can however deal with it in a positive manner.
Can I say that your posts come across as if you have a lot of anxiety? Perhaps much of it is deserved, but it seems you may have suffered with it long enough don't you think? Maybe it's time to make your choices and let the chips fall where they fall in all aspects of your life? Just a thought...
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
