Well, NC didn't last very long. When I was home for lunch I had a message from my H saying that he had tried to call/text me but apparently he has been block (yup!). Then he went on to say how he would like to refinance the house and already has the paper work done, but wanted to make sure it was OK with me. Also said regardless of what happens in the future he doesn't want us to pay more than we have to. This is what I had been asking him to do for months, but he insisted on selling the house and getting his name off the mortgage. It's amazing how these MLCers are mean one minute and accommodating the next. I called him back to let him know that refinancing was fine with me and I thanked him. I also let him know that I blocked him because I won't allow him to treat me badly anymore and that I need distance from him. I also let him know that I don't trust him and that his actions starting with the day he left have shown me that he only considers what's in his best interest so I will no longer engage in conversations, etc. with him. The attorneys will need to do all of the negotiating from now on. Last, I told him that I will no longer allow him to dump on me and that I realize I took on too much of the responsibility for the failures in our marriage. As far as I'm concerned I've taken a look at myself, apologized for my shortcomings, changed things (I will continue work in this area) that needed to be changed, but that's it. He has to deal with all the rest. Then I ended the phone call. I don't care whether he mulls all that over or not, but it sure felt good to set some boundaries with him. I had a bounce in my step all the way back to work. Now it's back to NC.
