I love your attitude. Your dialogue with your h when he was snoring was great. Don't know if it was totally db. I really think the most important thing however is to keep your sense of humor and laugh at how grumpy our spouses are.
They are looking for reasons to justify their behavior so anything like leaving the cap off the toothpaste becomes a major offense.
Have you read the Laura Munson book, "this isn't the season you think it is"? It's a memoir of her experience with her h Mlc. She also said she thought of herself as a golden couple.
The book has a happy ending so definitely check it out if you havent
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13