Stuck in Holding Pattern

[ben11]

Looking for some advice...

I'm thinking it's time to work out a separation agreement with my W. I'm not interesting in perusing a R and just want to move on with my life.

I was thinking of writing her an email which basically I would tell her that I'm sorry about my part in the breakdown of the marriage, validate her reluctance to wanting to try work out our M, and ask if she would help me move on by working on a separation agreement with me.

It's quite plain for me to see that she doesn't feel like we have ever had a connection strong enough for her, and that she's not going to give up OM to figure out what kind of connection we could create.

Clearly, that's out of my control. I can only control what I do, and what makes me happy. And this situation, this separation, has run its course. I'm ready to move on as it stands. I'm ready to be happy in this part of my life too. I feel like I just need to get some closure. I know it will be tough, it will be very sad, and I'll probably second guess it a lot, but I feel this is the only thing left to do.

Please, any feedback would be great. If you totally disagree, please let me know. Maybe I'm not thinking this through well enough...