OORAH Kolja! I totally agree with your last paragraph about getting the divorce before healing can begin. My take on it is that eventually, at some point in the future, you are going to have to interact with the ex, for some mundane reason, i.e. taxes, death in extended family, pension benefits, etc. It will be a whole lot easier to interact if there are no bitter memories to reflect on. It seems to me that just about every time, if not everytime I talk to someone who has/is using lawyers, things get out of hand and unintended bitterness seeps in. We both dont want that to happen.

Good luck to you on your sitch, thanks for checking in, will check out your thread.
SEMPER FIDELIS

m 54
XW 48
m 12
t 14
bomb 6-11
s 10-11
wife moved to other state 10-21-11
d 9-12

O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!