When it came to "Operation Room Switch" I did tell my H that he wouldn't recognise the place when he got home. That I was working on staging the house. How he choose to interpert that is his own problem. I think the 4 rooms I got staged look wonderful. And when I get a storage unit and haul the boxes I packed out the whole house will look great.
He is still a little grumpy about the room switch. I'm a little grumpy about him lies about where he was for 4 days. So it all works out. I still tell him when I will be gone and where I'm going. He gets very upset if he doesn't know exactly where I am.
But when he decides to go out he gets mad if I ask what movie he plans to see, or where he is eating. I actually realized it is me being controlling. He went to the movies the other night. I didn't ask him what he saw or where he ate. Because I really don't care. Funny how once you notice your behaviour, you can change it.
And the next time I plan to go out, I am going to start answering his questions the way he answers mine. He always says "That is my private business." So my whereabouts and activities need to be my private business.
Autonomy is what I need!
I also quit hugging H hello and goodbye. We are separated, he said so! So I am trying to be serarated. It hurts me to not have the hugs, but I need real hugs from someone who cares, not scraps thrown to me!
Standing on my own two feet, I will be the one wearing a dress!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
