I'm thinking that when we do discuss what's next after this test that I'm going to say that if she really wants to leave that door open to her coming home that I think we need to go to MC in the meantime, otherwise what's the point? If she's not willing to do that, which she's refused at every point throughout all of this, then what are we really doing? Is she just trying to figure out a way to string along her backup plan?
Don't tell her anything, demonstrate with action. You will be a backup plan as long as she knows you're available to be one. If you can lead her to believe that you're going to lead your own life, then she will begin to question on her own if you'll be there when she chooses to return. You need to make her wonder, and you do that with action, not words.
With regard to the furniture, don't get into it at all. Tell her "do what you think is right" and leave it at that, and do not help her move it out.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
