Over 3 Years and Still a Donkey's Behind!!!!

[AJM]

It's the wait that hurts the most and I SURE don't want to prolong that.

Right. Get that. Of course you don't want to prolong that. I would expect you to be crazy if you did.

Do you know how hard it was for me to ask son to go stay with his Dad? I did it with tears streaming down my face and cop friend standing there with us. Do you remember? I have questioned myself since then.
I took the advivce from many here and did that. I am not blaming anyone but I should have listened to my heart.

I wanted to add that I know my son Loves me and I know he knows whats right.
BUT the fear he must have is awful. He is so scared of losing his dad. He knows I will be here.
Son told someone that he hadnt talked to me for over 2 yrs. but they just didnt understand. I dont understand what he meant.
I dont know how I can ever forgive my xh for doing this to our son but I know I have to find a way.

Let's play devil's advocate for a second. If you had it to do again, would you do it over again? If I look at your posts, I think I see you did what I would consider the right thing to have done for your son. I guarantee you he is thinking about it too. He tested his feelings against somebody else, and they didn't understand. The feedback? Your son isn't the norm according to that person. Does he blame you for it? For now he might. I doubt it.

Regardless how painful it is, this is something you son needs to go through. As much as it [censored], it he needs to go through it. Not because you or he asked for it, but because it is part of his growing up. You can't see the future to know what benefit he'll get from knowing these things. They will become apparent later. But speaking as a man who was once a child, I can say there are some painful times and choices you have to make. Some need structure and discipline for a while. Those that do, will get it anyway they can - military, prison, drugs, an estranged parent, etc. They'll do it until they are done and have had enough. Then they break away.

That's a normal part of the American culture and growth.

Do you doubt you did the right thing, Sunshine? Looking past the hurt, would you do it again for your son and the reasons you did it? Are you second guessing?

AJ

That's normal.