the path is the goal...

[zig]

thanks cat, for your reply

They don't intentionally want to hurt us. However, I believe that when they feel (have the impression) that we are hanging on even a little, they go into fight mode in order to push us further away

so, my saying that i preferred to see us work it out, he sees as hanging on?

should i start saying i don't? or not say anything at all

this is like a mind game of the first order!!

i actually am beginning to think/sense, that even though he is doing all of this, on some level he is actually hurt that i have practiced a bit of apathy and indifference and am NOT begging him to come back.

a catch 22 of the biggest order.

so what's the solution? don't say anything and move forward?

stick to what i said and move forward"

i'm definitely moving forward - any movement for me is better than no movement, and i'm focusing on that.

i have read quite a bit from the mlc forum and archives - and it's like reading about him - and i see what he's doing and where he's at and it's almost fascinating on some level. reading all that has helped me so much to realize what have to do, and how little this has to do with me really.

i can see how my role pushed him towards this, but after he took the conscious decision to move away, it has not been about me, any longer. i wish so much i had found this site right in the beginning- but i found it when i did, and that's good.

thank you so much for all your insight cat04 - it is precious info that i can really do with

i hope you are having a good day too - i am doing well:)
zig