This is a process of learning about and improving yourself. We all get to our endpoint, whatever that may be. at different times because we have different lessons to learn.
Some people do things a different way, it works for them and they then think everyone should do it their way. I've had enough spins on this planet to know that there is no one size fits all for what humans do from birth to death and everything in between.
There are a few universal requisites, like boundaries and respect. Everyone deserves those, everyone should honor those.
Would what you are doing right now be any different if you were physically separated, divorced, alone, dating?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss