How long were you friends with her before she starting making a play for your H?
Oh she is hands down sociopath/borderline crazy. They really come across as charming, engaging, your best friend, and will make damn sure that what is all yours will be taken away some way or another. People like her are drawn to caring, compassionate, trusting, loving, fun, smart, and wonderful people, and feed off it. Wonderful people like you Wendy.
So tell me this. If our husbands were smart enough people at one time to see the good things in us, how on earth can they be brainwashed by these sociopath OW? Sorry, here I am thinking rationally again....MLC= irriationality. I guess it's two wrongs thinking they're making a right? Seriously, just how do they entrap these men? I guess they just pump their heads full of everything they want to hear. I firmly believe that XH's point of view on me was radically altered by her pumping him full of lies and ideas. His mother caught this going on at Thanksgiving and pulled him aside and tried to talk sense into him, bless her heart.
I know it sounds so long ago, but I had a girl that did this to me in Junior High and even tried in HIgh School. This girl did her best to ruin me, aliente my friends, spread rumors, you name it, she did it. I hated her so bad, but then after time marched on I felt sorry for her. And boy oh boy did Karma catch up with her. I just kept on being me, and everyone soon knew the stuff she was saying was wrong.
So Wendy you just keep on being the wonderful you. Everyone see's it...especially those young guys trying to pick you up needing a cell phone...and of course the security guard. You're emulating the true beauty within!
I will keep being the wonderful me.
To say that this is "sad" that this has happened to our H is an understatement. But in the wake of all this pain, maybe this is our chance for our good Karma to come to us. I think we should give ourselves some credit and remember all the wonderful things we did for our H out of love, and how we just loved them and accepted them anyway. How we strived to stand and still love them when they're not loveable at all. How we took this oppurtunity to re discover ourselves, and how it will only enrich our lives from here on out.
And upon looking at ourselves like this, it's not to look down upon our H's and all the wrong they've done and that we're above or superior. But still making the choice to try in the wake of all this madness. gee... I think we're beautiful and brave souls to even try.
I've been very inpatient with myself for my huge waves of frustration, anger and resentment towards H lately. It's only normal and by golly I have a right to feel this way. I've been so mad at myself for even trying to stand and hope to outlast the MLC, and hope he comes back to us. My pride has taken a beating.
But Im not too proud to admit that I tried my very best. Just because it didn't come out the way I wanted it, doesn't mean I failed or Im a failure.
