It appears that when the WAS feels they are going to be in an uncomfortable sitch, they work themselves up and basically fire warning shots across the bow.

so KD - one of my dilemmas during all these months is about "uncomfortable-ness" for the WAS.

is it good DB'ing to let them feel uncomfortable ? once in a while?

i have tried not to let him feel the discomfort( as in not pointing out the effects of what he is doing constantly) , seeing it in the way that if i make him uncomfortable then he continually associates a negative feeling with me.

me 46 H 38
M10yrs T 11
S10
BD ow 8/11
h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"