Not sure what to make of these sorts of apologies. Is it just guilt-reduction on their part and makes no difference at all to their position?
Or is it evidence that they are finally doing some work to look inward and realising that we are not the 'problem'?
Trying not to mind-read, but I would love to hear from others about their experiences of spouses' apologies (don't want to hijack, though!).
yes NLW - i find myself asking exactly the same thing. i don't ever remember him making sincere apologies - in fact, i used to get pissing mad because no matte what he did, for him to apologize was just not happening. in fact even after admitting whatever, he chose to continue a fight or argument rather than just say a quick sincere sorry and get on with life.
and now his apologies seem really thought out - he doesn't say sorry and leave it at that - he explains exactly what he is sorry about - and i find that quite mind-blowing to hear it coming from his mouth
hopefully the vets here will chime in and help us out?
maybe it doesn't mean much, maybe it's a baby step - hey in my case it feels like a giant step (grin!)
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"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
