i stayed calm and said that if that is what he wished, i respected his decision, even though it was not what i wished, that i would prefer to see us stay a family together, i would not help him to get a divorce, but it was his prerogative to file for one is he wished.
he tried to make it sound as if i said i was going to fight the divorce, and i said that is not what i meant, i meant that i just wasn't going to help him to get it.
he yelled a lot, things like - "i'm ending this relationship right now, this minute" (i replied that it had been clear to me that he had ended it last august). also said "i have no intention at all of trying to make this relationship work." i said i respected that .
then we got off the phone after i said that i needed to go pick son up.
zig
This is Fantastic Zig!! You stood up for yourself in an assertive and firm manner. And it sounds like a 180 as well. He definitely noticed, and I bet you've slowed down the paper filing process. You are indeed a woman only a fool would leave.
