the path is the goal...

[zig]

thanks for your lovely words, ces and for your very good questions

i don't feel like my goals have changed - i very much think it's worth being patient, and seeing where this goes. this IS going to be a very long long process - and frankly i have no idea where we are headed, and oddly enough i am beginning to realize that it doesn't matter . i believe when i get to wherever it is, i will have worked through my hurt and anger and forgiveness, and i will be in a good place. i'm only starting to really begging to feel that now, if i am honey.

in a way it is a lot - but you know - it's always been a lot with h - and now i have to "train" myself to not mind it, it amazes me how much he holds on to - as if he is the grand victim - and i see now how much he did that during our marriage. it is definitely starting to make me wonder if that's what i continue to want in a relationship

how are you doing ces? i hope that things are going good for you and life is a bit easier?

zig