Brooklyn Babe

[BklynMom]

SIAS, I love that you found the humor in my H email. It has relieved a lot of tension recently being able to laugh at his nonsense.

labug - I cant tell you how much it means to me that you thought my response was great & strong. I doubt myself and worry too much sometimes if I am DBing enough or if I am doing this wrong for my daughters or just worry. I need to trust that all the new information I have in my mind that I can come up with reseasonable responses.

H texted me today asking if he could see the girls one day during the week since he would be off from work. I said "Sounds good. Let me know which day". I am happy with that response. My L/father is the bad guy, the legal aspect will be tight but we can still resolve smaller day to day stuff together.

ALso went to an Alanon meeting tonight. First meeting in a while that clicked for me. Really made me remember this is not my fault. I didnt cause it, I cant control it and I cant cure it.

I think one aspect of DBing that has been confusing for me is accepting my contributions for the problems in our relationship but not blaming myself. I blamed myself for many many months. And I can still fall into blaming myself very easily.

So happy to have you guys as my friends. This board is a blessing