You said above that their answer is to stop loving and that you don't believe they actually stop loving us. That really is my husband. I may be a fool but I do believe that deep down he does still love me. He has issues he can't seem to resolve and this is his way to do it. And like you said about the person your wife has become, I don't think I like this unhappy person. And I do feel sorry for him too. He says he wants closure and to move on but to what? He says he wants to be alone. That can't be good for anyone. I know I'm not happy with that.
Me50 H54 S18, SS28, SD30 M20yrs, Together 22 minus 2 Separated 8/06/08