It sounds like you did really well. I would say the proof of that was your H calling you back and apologizing.
It appears that when the WAS feels they are going to be in an uncomfortable sitch, they work themselves up and basically fire warning shots across the bow... or, they just put on their gloves and come out fighting the moment that panic button blips in their head...
Now that convo is done... let it go... and move forward...
