about an hour later, he called back and apologized profusely - not for the divorce stuff but for the argument and what he'd said and that what i had said during the argument was perfectly true. i told him very nicely that i really appreciated it,(it was the most heart felt sounding apology i'd ever got from him). he said he had a really hard time telling me the truth (that's what the argument was about) because he was scared of my reaction. zig
Oh Zig, This is exactly what I get from my H after he explodes.
He says it a little more passive-aggressively though: "I'm afraid of you". It makes me look like some sort of dom violence perpetrator.
Not sure what to make of these sorts of apologies. Is it just guilt-reduction on their part and makes no difference at all to their position?
Or is it evidence that they are finally doing some work to look inward and realising that we are not the 'problem'?
Trying not to mind-read, but I would love to hear from others about their experiences of spouses' apologies (don't want to hijack, though!).
