Thanks so much for your feedback. It's good to know that you can sense change in my POV.
MY GAL is hard-won - still don't feel like doing it and, of course, just when I start doing things that H used to really like doing as a family, he is not around to notice!
But I'm not doing them to get him back, I'm doing them for me and the kids ... I know (or, at least, I will accept this eventually).
I must admit to being a bit concerned in terms of the 'do what works' department.
Since I stopped being so available to H (i.e. stopped answering his every call), he has cut us off almost completely.
I realise that not much time has passed in relation to this - and that I might be making a mistake to draw a line between my going dim and his NC ... but it does concern me a bit.
He is SO retaliatory. He told me after I found out about his A that he did it only to get back at me for the hurt I had done to him.
Anyway, just need to be patient and keep trying to work on myself.
Great to hear from you as always, and I'll keep you posted!
