Considering what you've shared... S15 might have heard the drug argument.
I'll tell you... If I didn't know that S15 could have heard it come up, I would say to let it go.... Because I have teens, and they say things like.. "Why are you acting like you're on drugs?" When they mean, to them, you're acting strangely.
But, it seems odd that he would use the specific drug name... I guess I've just never heard my boys even mention specific drugs, just as a general term.
I think i would ask him why he brought that up to his Dad. Maybe let him know that it gave you cause for concern for him to mention drugs... If he shrugs it off, just blame it on your Mom duty to investigate those kind of comments!
If its real, something tells me he will share what he knows w/you. If he was being flippant, you'll probably just get laughed at a bit. No biggie. My boys get a giggle out of my concerns a lot... And probably roll their eyes!
As for H... Definitely ask your L tomorrow, but... I think I'd be inclined to draft an email to him, stating they you're not intending to change your mind on interim visitation, but... Here are the expectations while in the marital home and in charge of the boys...
- Curfews for boys - Consistant cleanliness, nutritional and educational standards as when he lived in marital home and you were there, leading... - Consistant teen rules - Zero alcohol and/or drug use - Arrival and Departure times staggered by 15 minutes so you aren't coming and going w/each other present. - Continued access to boys via phone while not w/boys - Encouragement of both parents involvement in boys school/sports activities. - Notification to other parent if they are leaving town. - Privacy concerns in your bedroom/office
Also, take all boys' identification documents and put in an offsite safe deposit box.
My xH got a little freaky when stressed, so I even took his passport and put it w/all of the other identification documents. He has never asked for it. LoL
Just my thoughts for now.
I hope he calms down. If he only had the desire to make a choice for his family....
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
