So, I have the list of goals. I’m not sure if they make sense or not, so I’m just going to list them all for feedback. There are A LOT of them, so I will need to break them down into short & long-term lists as well. Again, some of the goals are for me, and some for my M.
1. NO R TALK. 2. I will not bring up OW. (Take me now, Jesus!) 3. I will compliment H so that he feels admired by me. 4. I will work on not being sarcastic when talking to H. 5. I will call my stepson at least once a week. 6. I will work out at least 3 times a week. 7. I will read at least one chapter of a M per night. (been really slack here) 8. I will do something just for me at least once a week. 9. I will make sure H feels love from me by my words and actions (speaking softly, eye contact when he’s talking, etc.) 10. I will ask H to have dinner with me once a week (in or out of the house). 11. I will do more active listening (eye contact, stop what I’m doing while he is talking, really listen and not think about my response). 12. I will kiss/hug H when leaving or entering the house (this is one of his issues; no problem doing it when leaving…entering the house is a different story)
There you have it. I am in the process of reading Michele's posts on goals in the archives, so I’m sure there are more that I will list as they come to me.
