Autumn, I'm trying to find it in your thread, but did you and your H ever agree to staying every other weekend?
If you did - then I could understand the confusion on his part.
I don't have kids nor do I pretend to know how to parent. My parents separated for about a year when I was 9 and as much as the "visitations" sukked... it sukked more that he wasn't around the 75% of the other time.
Till this day.. I don't know why he didn't come around.. and 20 yrs late - I can argue that it doesn't really matter...
..but it did at the time because all I saw was that "dad didn't love me enough".
If you are truly protecting your kids from him then I am in full support.
But check your heart. If even 2% of this decision is because of your hurt or your boundaries.. get rid of them.
It's true that it is not your job to repair/rebuild your H's relationship with his children....
.... but I do believe it is your job to not stop it.....
... and your job that if your kids want him around to support it
IF H words are true and not a tactic.
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Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
