Hi all, it's been nearly a year since I last posted so probably time for an update of events.
W still with OM ( things not going so well though, ha ha ) Me still clean. Me stopped smoking cigarettes too!! Minimal comms with W ( kids, house etc & NO R TALK ) Comms NEVER instigated by me. Me as dark as dark can be in the circumstances. Still living 100 miles apart. I see youngest D every 2 weeks. S lives & works with me now. Relations with W always friendly and cordial on my part, have followed DB advice to the letter. Me getting on with life and to be honest quite happy.
Just prior to christmas duration of W's calls begin to get longer and longer. Lots of chat about her family, stuff the OM doesn't understand as he's never met them. Then I get a couple of late night texts and calls from W. She was drinking wine and listening to 'our' music and getting a just little nostalgic and wistful about 'us'. Missing our late night chats, drinking, dancing and.....well you can guess what came after.
Nothing more came of this and I spent 1st christmas alone ever!! Kids were at home with W & OM. Kids not too impressed that he was there and apparently he spent most of his time in the back room out of the way...best place for him, ha ha.
In late Feb this year W got back in touch but this time began to express her uncertainty about our separation. She was not having a good time with OM and was thinking he may be a rebound relationship...You don't say!!!
W tells me that my FB holiday photo's made her cry because of OW in the pictures.
W tells me that her christmas was sh$t because OM was boring (and still is apparently)
Me & W agree to meet for a day out in the country. Walking, pub lunch, more walking & afternoon tea.
Wonderful day which included regular, VERY tentative discussion about vaguest possibility of 'what if we were to try again' nature complete with hand holding and, at the end of the day, a lot of kissing and hugging.
Day ended with both smiling and later texts expressing happiness.
Texts and occasional calls continue up to and including her holiday with OM a few weeks later after which time NOTHING!!! ZIP, ZERO, ZILCH. It's as if I no longer exist. Back to very short texts about picking up youngest D from home and whenever I arrive she is out.
Can anyone read between the lines and come to a different conclusion to mine?
Ideas as to reasons behing this massive 180 from her?
FF999
Me 48 W 49 D19, S17, D14 Together 25yr, Married 22yr Me checked-out July 10, back Sept 10 W checked out Nov 10 Separated Dec 10 ILYBNILWY 2nd Apr 11 We're finished + D bomb 17th Apr 11
