I'm so sorry for the pain you are going through right now. I applaud your strength in sticking with your boundaries against illegal behaviors, self-medicating with alcohol/meds/whatever else and marital unfaithfulness. Stay strong!
It sounds like your husband is exhibiting some typical very bad LBS behaviors today. We, as DB'ers, know that how he is acting is only pushing you farther away as well as any hopes for reconciliation. Hopefully he will clue into that sooner rather than later, get his act together and you and your boys can have some peace. Is there any chance you think he'd end up here on the DB boards?
When I've been in your shoes (bombarded with unreasonable emails, calls and texts regarding finances, the kids, the house, and whatever else), I chose to just tell my h I wouldn't communicate with him, regardless of the situation, until he calmed down and acted like a reasonsable adult. I'm embarrassed to say he had to tell me the same thing a couple of times, too, and it worked. In any case, I hope your lawyer gets back to you promptly when she's back in the office, so you can get your questions and concerns answered and turn over the tough work to her. That's what attorneys are for!
Hang in there and stay strong. I'm hoping for the very best for you.
