i hate to say this but i recognise myself in your words and tone with your husband. at least, the self that drove my husband away from me. from all the things i've been reading lately, i know i need to work on conflict resolution and communication. lots of times, i was out of touch with my feelings and let anger take the place of fear or pain.
what i'm trying to do now is really examine what i'm feeling; am i afraid of something (loss of control or not being accepted as someone who may have different goals or desires which could really be a fear of not being important or appreciated)? my gut reaction to pain (in the past) has been to come back as tough and independent. i'm finding that that response makes my husband feel emasculated. it also does not contribute to a win-win solution for both of us.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
