Do I just give in?

[Hurt84]

Thanks hopingandpraying. While I don't think any of us like the situations we are in, it's good to read others stories and see that I'm not alone.

So it's barely 12 noon and I've already slipped up twice today. First, this morning when I was leaving for work and she was getting ready to go hand in her application for the apartment, I reminded her that I wasn't forcing her to move out and that if she'd come around that I'd be willing to work at things (not exactly in those words, but you get the point).

The second slip up was just now. Her sister asked me how I was doing and if she's come around and I blurted everything out, down to why I think my wife is avoiding talking to her and her mother.

I was doing so good but in both cases I couldn't help myself. She knows I'm not happy with what's going on so why did I need to say anything? I had been better about not pursuing her. With her sister, it's not like she's confided in her at all through this whole thing, so why did I have to do that? It's not like she's going to magically open up now.

I get the impression that anyone that asks me what's going on or how I'm doing, I'm going to tell them because I just want to talk to someone about it. But I know that it won't necessarily help things with my wife...if anything, they all tell me I'm holding on to something when I'm not getting any reason to.

I've stopped trying to figure out who she's talking to and what they are talking about - it's been 4 days. At this point, it really doesn't matter if she's still talking to OM or not. I know what's gone on and me torturing myself by continually checking up on her doesn't change a thing. I want to know but these last few days I actually feel a little relieved or like a burden has been pulled off me.

She handed in the application for the apartment so obviously me backtracking this morning didn't change a thing. Can't wait to see her reaction if her sister gets on her case again.