Autumn, I know you believe this path is good and right for you.
I hope you understand that the path you are on leads to D.
As anyone points that may not be the case, I submit it IS.
It wasn't for me, Kaffe. My wife and I reconciled, after I used tactics even stronger than I'm allowed to post here, and last Friday we celebrated our 27th wedding anniversary and since our reconciliation 5 years ago we also celebrated the birth of our first grandchild.
I strongly disagree with the statement" this path leads to divorce," but I WOULD agree with you that "you need to be prepared for the eventuality that it will."
Autumn has already stated that her husband is refusing to give up behaviors that SHE thinks puts her family at risk, as well as himself, and that she's NOT OKAY with these -- they are her Boundaries of Personal Integrity.
I think we should trust her assessment, respect her privacy in not pushing for more on what those behaviors are, and support her in her current efforts, however we can.
I do know we both (all) want what's best for her, and her boys.
