Not sure where to start, Part 2

[BklynMom]

WH - just caught up on your thread and I really relate to much of what you are feeling.

I have mentioned before that I think most C are quacks. But it sounds to me like you found a good C who recognizes that your H is not living in reality. That is really important. It took me a while to find someone that recognized that H was in crisis.

Your H is doing the same thing they all do and looking for justifications for his unforgivable actions. If you said the check book is on the microwave he would have said "dont you think I know where you leave things? do you think I'm an idiot" He is looking for reasons to call you unreasonable. He did the same thing the day of your D soccer game.

He is being a passive aggressive jerk. Unfortunately you cant call him on it. Try to be as loving as humanly possible and pray that he sees the light. He is as sick right now as someone with cancer.

""Who are you??""

That is a very good question. This is not your H, he is a diseased man and today we dont know if there is a cure that can bring your H back.

Hang in there. Be the best WH you can be