Thank you all for your advice and prayers the last few months!!! May God bless us this weekend at Retrouvaille and move us forward to a better space in our R.
Peace and prayers to all of you this weekend!!!
J
M 43, W 40 T 22. M 14 D 14, S 9, S 8 DD 11/21/11 Retrouvaille 4/13/12--and the healing begins as we begin a new journey together!
Wow, what a weekend! At first she admitted she didn't want to be there, and didn't think it'd help too much. She gave it an open mind and heart and I told her that's all I could ask for. It went well at 1st, not too heavy,and I didn't check in with her (thanks MLC25!).
Day 2 about halfway thru we got to some of the heavier issues for us. She came back at one point and asked if we could go know, but I think was half joking. At the end of day 2 I went back to the room and she was in tears and admitted that she needed to work harder, didn't know if she could, but felt overwhelmed that she needed to. We talked for a while then went to bed.
Day 3 we continued our progress and at the end of our alone time, come light came into the room and we were talking about us and our R, and something just turned on like a switch in her. I think it was the Holy Spirit at work, but it all changed there.
More later, but now we are BOTH working on our R DAILY and we are BOTH committed to working to rebuild our M. W felt moved by God and is being more affectionate towards me than in the last 5 years in small, but very meaningful ways. We both know it's going to be hard work and just beginning, but we are both committed to making it work day by day now. I have to say out of the 20 so couples there, I think most felt moved in similar ways.
TG, I used your advice of them running away from it, and she passed that test and is still here, but I saw many of the couples try to bolt, but all of them stayed and were glad they did! I have to say, if you can just get your spouse to this, it is a miracle!!! More later and followup. I pray for all of you and thank you again for your prayers! J
M 43, W 40 T 22. M 14 D 14, S 9, S 8 DD 11/21/11 Retrouvaille 4/13/12--and the healing begins as we begin a new journey together!
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
Congrats Jlove, these positive stories keep us motivated so please continue to share and be aware that your work is still just beginning. Good Luck!!
Yes I know that the work is just beginning. Great feeling is W didn't want to go to followup meetings, but now is excited to and excited about the whole process. That is inspiration for me after the last 5 months.
I also know that ANY positive story here can be inspiring so I feel moved to share as I can with this board so everyone will keep fighting for their M. May god bless us all!
M 43, W 40 T 22. M 14 D 14, S 9, S 8 DD 11/21/11 Retrouvaille 4/13/12--and the healing begins as we begin a new journey together!
That's great news, jlove! I hope that someday I will have that chance to attend a Retrouvaille weekend with my wife. One can only hope and pray, right?
