I had a small setback as we transitioned to separation this weekend. H was here on Friday as he was packing and said "it really hurts when you don't respond to my texts" I said "I always do if they are about the kids" and I guess I thought to myself, it may be a 180 to listen and respond occasionally. I was wrong
It was too confusing and somewhat led H to believe that things were ok, started sending pictures of the boat that he just dropped in this weekend, a picture of his finger wearing his wedding ring, and random small talk. He went to the Flyers playoff game and was sending pictures. It was too much.
He has been telling everyone that we are just having a few bumps. His sister called me yesterday and said "marriage is hard, you two will be ok" LOL I can only imagine what she was told, I can guarantee you that OW was not included. I am not out to embarass him but he is making it look like I am doing this over nothing or over reacting. Ugh.
Last night I texted him that we need to discuss a few things and really settle them, that includes visitation (I don't want him here every other weekend, it is too disruptive and confusing for the boys) Until he gets a place to take them, we will have to figure out an alternative.
We also need to finalize finances, if we need a mediator we will get one. His suggestion is to do the bills together every other week. I originally agreed but we need a cleaner break than that, and hopefully we can do it together.
I asked him to keep our discussions to email for now, and plan to go darker than ever.
