That's pretty insightful. I never thought that by women taking on the role of keeping everything undercontrol with the house would make a man feel that way.
I seriously doubt your wife purposely took on these roles to take anything away from you purposely. She was just doing what needed to be done. Did you see it differently at the time? I ask because this was main complaint from my XH. He was just a paycheck and I was too controlling. He told me " I just gave up." and " You do everything for me anyway, you don't have to do this for me either".
At the time this was happening did you understand why you felt the way you did and then tell her about it? Or did you feel anger and resentment towards her?
