This is NOT about MY NEED to talk to ex. Fig I appreciate your input but you are missing something or I am not coming across clearly. Let me say it again. My xh agreed to KEEP paying a payment to the IRS. It was written in the Divorce Settlement. I had no idea if he is still paying or not. ALL I DO KNOW is they are taking my refunds that I could use. My tax person/accountant/whatever you want to cal him stated that I would have to take my xh to small claims court to get my part back and in meantime they will take it.....nothing i can do. I said to him that xh was court ordered to make payments but I have no idea if he is making them....in if he is would make the total amount less. I can file this paper...YES i understand BUT I have to PAY the Sherriffs office to serve it. Dont know if you have to do that in your state or not. AND I HAD NO LAWYER and cannot afford one. Ok that IS WHY I tried to call and work something out. NOW....IF It comes down to taking my xh to court that is gonna give my son something else to say is MY FAULT and may look as if what is dad is telling him is right. SO I DONT WANT TO DO THAT> I wanted to work this out between us nicely. It is about my son. I dont care how many times you analyze it, or what you say in regards to that. It is all about my son! What has my son got to do with it. Well I will tell you. If I have to fight with xh in court. SON will be the one to suffer because he will be brainwashed ONCE again that I am the one to blame. This will only push him further away. I treid to do this just between xh and I but didnt work. SO in order to keep my son out of it, becuase his dad will put him in the middle like before....i am gonna pay it and forget it.
You know, I came to this board yrs ago and found help. I asked some pretty dumb questions and asked them repeatedly. Some of the people here have changed. Some such as Snodderly wont even post to me anymore and I have no idea why. She was so nice to me and now its like she will post her opinion to everyone but me. I thought this was a place to get help. I am not feeling that anymore. I am still struggling and instead of building me up and telling me to hang in there some of you are questioning me. I dont get it? I would never do that to anyone.
Why would I not tell you if I wanted to speak to my ex because it was for me? I have been honest before. Look at my posts. Just recently I spilled my heart here not worrying how much of an idiot I would look like. Why would I not just tell the truth? Its not about xh. I want peace for my son. I am in another rel and I dont want nothing but peace. Thought maybe he had change. but he hasnt. I want this peace for my son. If you all dont believe that then so be it. I am not explaining myself again. This is NOT a place to argue. Its a place to get help (or use to be). I am NOT the only divorced wife with an xh who is remarried. What is it? I mean really what is up with some of you questioning me??? and acting like I am lying?
I am not in a good place right now.
I am desperate to have my son back and will do anything for it. Its been too long. YEs he is an adult and YES It doesnt matter to me. Life is too short to miss time with your children. I will never stop being there for my son. I love him with all I have. I cant fb him.....he has me blocked. I have no email and have tried to get it. It got back to him I was trying and he just got angier. I even had a COP take his Christmas Presents....only to be returned. So sorry you all still think i am pinning away after my ex.
