My H and I were going through DB counseling while he was still talking to the OW, also. He even had a separate phone he was using to contact her, so that I wouldn't see it on the phone bill...real LOW! He lied through counseling and that hurt me the most.
He, now, has his own place and I've decided to go dark with him...meaning no contact and living my life without him, which feels so unnatural but that's what my DB coach said to do. I've tried this before...it only lasted a week each time, because I always found out more about his OW and confronted him about it. Maybe that was a mistake and a 180 for that would have been not to confront him, but sometimes I just can't help myself.
We also separated everything...savings, checking, auto insurance, and are even looking into refinancing our cars. I'm not going to do that unless we do sign D papers...that can come later. I'm not even sure I want him back to work on things, because he did have a EA/PA, which could still be ongoing, but I want to make sure I truly tried everything!!! I just don't understand how WAS just walk away from their lives they've created with the one person they were NEVER supposed to hurt!
Keep your head up! Things will get better!
M: 27 H: 28 T: 8 yrs M: 6 yrs Sep: 2/18/12 (I have no feelings for you!) EA/PA Uncovered: 2/26/12 H introduces OW to his fam: June H moves ALL stuff out: July
