Even before she said she wanted to separate the plan had been for me to move into the house in order to do renos. I had booked the next two weeks off of work months ago so I could focus on fixing up the house. She wants to use this time apart to figure out what it is she wants. She didn't ask me to move out, it had always been the plan. Until Wednesday I just didn't realize she might not want to move in once the renos are done. The original intention was she would stay at our condo for the two weeks because it is much closer to her job and the house would be torn apart.
The reason I believe the OM is no longer an issue is because I have access to her email, FB, text logs. I know that she hasn't had any contact with him in the last month. I honestly don't think she is being driven to separate by another man. Maybe I'm just being naive but I believe her. She seems really lost and confused about what she wants out of life. She said she wants to be alone since she's never had that before. She told me the last thing she wants right now is any sort of relationship with another man, that would just complicate her decision even more. Like I said, I believe her, but maybe I shouldn't.
I didn't give her a deadline. The lease on our condo is up at the end of May so she has to come to a decision before then. Either she moves into the house with me or she has to find her own place.
