Journaling a bit - I feel frustrated that H is still going to friends house every night. He is currently 'napping' in our bedroom, not making any effort to move out 100%. I am saying nothing. Just giving him space and not telling him what to do (a 180). I've avoided my house for most of the morning, but it's hard when I have work to do here on the weekend too. When he leaves each night, he expects me to follow him out and give him a hug/kiss. I am wanting change to happen quickly. Patience is a virtue that I am trying to possess. We will address it at some point, but I'm not putting pressure on him.
Do I follow him out and give him hug/kiss? If I'm trying to be more loving, I'm projecting here, but I really do think he appreciates me doing it.
I think my 180s are: 1) be more loving. I have to change that to 'understanding' for the time being as loving is just annoying him. 2) stop 'fixing' everything 3) get back into art and not so much into practical 4) start to get the house ready for 'sale'. I have to do most of this work on my own... but a big 180 would be to actually move. 5) Stop being bossy and telling him what to do. 6) Expressing my gratefulness for his tasks he does.
