True, my ex does spend time with the kids. Today I cried when my youngest went to my ex's for Easter Break. I know I will not see her for 11 days. I will try to embrace my aloneness but it will be a challenge.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Sometimes I so wish my kids could go somewhere just for a short time? So little breaks with No xh Around-I guess we all get what we get and learn to adjust and try to be grateful..We let go to Gods Plan It amazes me how well we all do adjust and grow in spite of the crises
I wish you a peaceful Easter
Peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Thank you peace. I have heard from kids today via text, that helps. I worry about the kids being with ex. I don't think his state of mind is good at all due to him settling on the court decision. I assume he has much anger in regards to this.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Thanks forward. My ex is definitely going through a lot of anger right now. He is really miserable and you are right, it may not be with me, perhaps OW (bimbo) or perhaps himself. I can't imagine being a Ml'er planning a wedding! It seems like an oxy-moron to me. He has to have so much fear, anxiety in regard to this, especially after him owing me more for child support. He has to feel so stuck and trapped. Wasn't he running away initially from marriage? Kids have reported to me that OW is applying so much pressure in regard to this.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
T, You may still need to be prepared that he'll go through with the M. I think some of them say this because otherwise it makes all their other decision-making look as foolish as it is.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
I am prepared as I can get. He is responsible for his own choices, I have to let him go.
Whoo Hoo, 4 more days to go before I get my kids back. I can't wait. I hate when they are with ex....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Ex agreed to get me my arrears on child support by the 13th of April. Well guess what, he did not. I have a signed order that he would abide by that stipulation. He is currently on vacation with kids and expected back home Sunday night. I will have to have my lawyer pursue this once the kids are home and safe.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, I would definitely pursue this. Do not let it go.
I do hope that the children had a nice time. I bet you can't wait to see them!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.