Snodderly is absolutely right! My X kept telling the kids that "they just didn't know!" Know what? Evidently, he didn't know either. They will say anything to justify their actions in their own mind. GM, I'm two years post BD; been divorced almost a full year now. While detachment doesn't come easy, it is well worth the battle to obtain. I hurt for you knowing the agony of what you are feeling right now. Just deal one day at a time. And the backslide thing? fagedabotit. It happens. Just let it go, along with anything you might have said and now regret. Like it never happened.
