Do I just give in?

[Grocerykartman]

Hurt,

You asked on your other post about what to do over the next week. I would continue to follow Accuray's advice.

But also, in reading all your posts, I sense that every waking minute of your days now is consumed with what she is doing and what she is going to do.

Create some time and do plenty of fun activities for yourself that you can still be proud of when you wake up the next morning. Right now all of your thoughts are basically dependent on your wife. Why not spend several evenings by yourself golfing (or whatever you like to do) or having a beer and wings with a buddy or two? You need to do some things that are fun that will help take your mind off things a little. The only escapes you seem to have mentioned still have to do with activities the 2 of you do together, like dinner with friends but with her.

Create some time and do plenty of fun activities for yourself that you can still be proud of when you wake up the next morning. Important though, if you do hang out with a buddy or 2, DO NOT bring up your problems, for that is the last thing you should do. Rather, just do your best to simply take some control of your mental health back. Also, do not do this to get her to notice, even though she will. Rather, do it simply because you want to have a better time with your evenings than you have been having lately.

One thing that's important not to do though, which I noticed you said twice, is that YOU are the one who has been wronged here. And while you have been wronged, she is not going to feel that you are the only one who has. Right now she feels she has legitimate reasons for wanting out, and it's hard for a person to control how they feel and to ignore an unfulfilling feeling. This is very real to her. So if you think and act like a victim, that is not something she will ever warm back up to.

I wish you all the best here. This is the worst time when you feel like all the wheels are starting to come off and you don't know what to do. Just try to not to hang on her every move and action, but rather, make some actions of your own. Live your own life too.

I wish you well.