Haha thank you I have some very good support, that's for sure. I'm so thankful I found this place, it really did change my life.
I have to say that I am enjoying my boys so much right now. There is so much peace in the home and not a stitch of tension. I don't remember the last time it felt this way. I'm really thrilled about that, at a minimum. My S15 was telling me stories and catching me up on what is going on with him, his friends, the gym this afternoon and his plans tonight. He is somewhat of a quiet kid and just had so much to say. When I agreed to drive him to and from his friends, he hugged my neck and said 'you are the best, thank you so much'
S17 had a rough day. He is a lifeguard and they have to re-certify every year. He is having trouble passing one of the tests and came home very grumpy. I just gave him space and actually DB'd him for lack of a better term. It really worked. By the time he was leaving he was calm, almost happy. I told him that we can bbq for dinner when he gets back, which will be a great way to connect before they both go out with friends.