April thank you for sharing your situation with us. I am deeply sorry you are going through this.
Since I am also going through this I thought I might share my feelings on these as well. Maybe we share some of the same thoughts?
Originally Posted By: InAPickle
Detachment is a two edged sword. It means you have to sever your emotional connection to your H to a certain extent. His choices, his actions, his words have to no longer dictate whether or not you're going to be happy, angry or sad. The hardest part perhaps is deciding that you can be happy without him.
I know this to be true words, but so difficult and confusing as well. Detach but still care enough to get back together if the opportunity presents itself? This is just so hard. Personally, I feel I can get a life (GAL) and I am trying, but being a wonderful husband and father is absolutely the number one thing I want todo. Everything else just in pale in comparison to me.
Originally Posted By: InAPickle
I know, it sounds like giving up, but there is a liberation to it.
Again, I believe these words to be true but it still feels like giving up. Though, its not like I am convincing myself out of trying, I am not. I know I need todo this, but everything seems to boring and lifeless compared to sharing my life with my wife and children every day.
