round 2

[LeafTurner]

First of all I want to let you know that I am deeply sorry for what you are going through. I am in awe about what people go through in a troubled marriage. It has given me a completely new look on life. Remember that people like myself here are thinking of you and hoping for you.

I am a novice and trying to look through novice eyes, so please take my input with a grain of salt.

I/we made the mistake of not continuing therapy.

I feel like I understand how this happened and understand why you stopped. Though, I personally feel that if I ever get the chance to reconcile with my wife that I will never take my marriage for granted again. No matter how great things are, they can be better. Going to regular relationship workshops, retreats, and therapy seems to be essential as part of a LIVE LONG strategy. You could think of it as marriage insurance or happiness insurance. Worth ever bit of time put into it.

I suggested that she see a therapist

This move seems sort of dangerous. I also did the same thing and I feel it was a grave mistake. I now feel that any problem was an US problem. The fact that I didn't look at it as an US problem must of made her feel alone and blamed. This could only add to the distance it must of created and the resentment over time.

I wish you the greatest of luck and please be strong. Getting your life's dreams will never be easy, but so worth it if you do.