OK, know I shouldn't even wonder why, but I'm starting to feel more like an anthropologist about H's strange behaviour.

And it helps me to keep a journal of how things change in my sitch.

Again, today, H rang to say he would come over to see the kids - and then did not show up.

This has happened twice in the last week.

He called at 2.45pm to ask if he could take S13 to the dog park. I said that we were just on our way to get him a hair cut, but would call him when S was finished.

H then said that he wasn't planning on coming over for 2 hours and so he would see us then.

And then he just didn't show up. No call; no text.

S13 was left waiting and waiting for his dad, whom he hasn't seen since last Wednesday (for 15 mins).

D16 got a call from H at about the same time in the afternoon. But she couldn't answer because she works a checkout EVERY Sat afternoon and has done for the last 18 months, as we (including H) all know.

Maybe he does have a brain tumour????