ALSO, him ASKING his parents for a loan... to set up the house...???
That is a HUGE difference than them stepping in and saying, "here. here is a house because you should be moving on and starting your own life and having a 'home' for s."
Can you see how it is different?
yes - i see the difference now - they weren't outright enabling him, but they also weren't saying no. which mil admits openly
later this afternoon, she told me that she was going to say no about the house. i found myself saying - let go and let god - that i didn't want to manipulate the sitch in any way - i said that if he is determined, he would find another way. that it's true that their denying him this would maybe, and that's a very big maybe, make him pause and inspect what he is doing. on the other hand it may not, and he would just find another way
i don't know what she will ultimately decide - but it doesn't really matter in the big pic - him getting or not getting the house doesn't really affect the sitch -
thanks kd
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"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
